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Epic Weekend Saturday: QT with my Real Family



Have I explained to newer folks who ReeRee is to me? She's my Real Family. Family is who you choose to be to others, and she's that.

We used to work at the same place. One day I missed my bus and she drove me to my bus stop. Except my bus stop was 15 miles away in the South 'Burbs and she lived 15 miles in the OTHER DIRECTION. But she insisted cuz I was there and she was there and I'd missed my bus. And that's who she is to others.

She has two daughters (Mara and Colleen), each a year younger than LP and Da Midget. I first met them one random day at ValleyFair. I'd gone cuz I couldn't handle being around my ex. She'd gone cuz she'd promised her older daughter and their cousin. He's a boy a year older than her daughter. Coincidentally? Same gender and age delta between LP and her favorite cousin growing up. I took those two off ReeRee's hands for several hours so she could tend to her crabby infant (Colleen in diapers).


When shit finally hit the fan with the ex and my former faith, she took me in. Which was a very good thing, as any 'Dub who'd have done that for me would face banishment. Her husband had never met me, but let me stay with his wife and daughters. They both said I could stay as long as I needed to and really meant it. They're those kinda people.

(Truth be told? I'm still ME and People Being Kind to Me was weird, foreign and scary. I was out in six weeks with 2.5 rooms of new furniture and an apartment lease)

When LP and Da Midget first met Mara and Colleen, they were--to put it mildly--Freaked the Fuck Out. Here's two OTHER girls that are sorta like them, but not? Running up and hugging me and giggling about our inside jokes and I'm throwing Colleen over my shoulder like a sack of potatoes and twirling her around as we both say Ya Know WHAT?!?!? Ya Know WHAT?!!? at each other (long story, started when she was maybe five years old) while my two wonder 'What the HELL?' cuz they'd swear they were looking in on my Alternate Universe Family an shit. Mara and LP never clicked EVAR. Not sure if that was more LP or Mara. Midget and Colleen got along fine.

Anyway, fast forward to the present. My two won't even talk to me....meanwhile, Colleen's extra sure to invite me to her graduation party. The moment her big sis Mara sees me, she comes running for a long hug. Colleen greets me the same as she did when she was five. I reached down to pick her up and twirl her except OH SHIT she's in a short skirt. Very short. Whoops! Back down with you!

And she's a year younger than Midget (remember, Midget's grad was last year) BUT Colleen's been working a job since she was old enough to AND she's going to college like a high school grad should AND she's moving outta the house already. Just because she can and makes enough to support herself in the meantime. OH and she does mean-funny impressions of her mom, cuz what 18 year-old doesnt...

Where's that Alternate Universe when you need one?







ReeRee toured us 'round the house (B had never seen it, I'd helped them move in) and was SURE to show us Colleen's room. In her defense tho? She was at least packing to move.








We played volleyball after Colleen's grad lunch. I was hesitant to play at first--remembering that the ex's friends and family were the nasty-competitive type who yell at each other for missing balls or degrade each other for losing.








But now I'm amongst a better grade of people. Besides, damn near everyone--besides the kids--were in their early-to-mid 50s anyway. So I'd blend.








Mostly. I was feeling that one for a while.







But I wasn't alone. In many more ways than one.









And I needed that. Especially on a Fathers Day weekend.

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Date: 2016-07-03 07:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] zoefruitcake.livejournal.com
She sounds like a really good person, we all need people like that in our lives

Date: 2016-07-04 01:32 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
She's the best of the best and I don't know where I'd be without her. Strangely enough, she'd say the same about me.

Date: 2016-07-03 09:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] malterre.livejournal.com
That sounds amazing and what great friends

Date: 2016-07-04 04:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
We really need to get out and see them more often.
They're only out in the East 'Burbs. Not Tennessee.

Date: 2016-07-03 10:05 pm (UTC)

Date: 2016-07-03 11:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fbhjr.livejournal.com
Excellent! Looks like a good time!

Date: 2016-07-04 01:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ecosopher.livejournal.com
Aw, this is all so great :) What an awesome family, and I'm so glad that you still have contact with them. Fun times!

Date: 2016-07-04 04:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ragnarok-08.livejournal.com
That sounds incredible :)

Date: 2016-07-04 04:18 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
Even without a good showing at the Beginner's Showcase the following day--or FOTC the night before---this might have made it the best Fathers Day Evar.

Date: 2016-07-04 08:58 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] silviarambles
Having people like that in your life restored your faith in human race.

Date: 2016-07-05 02:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
And the best reminder that All Good People CERTAINLY aren't 'Dubs.

Date: 2016-07-04 10:45 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] smittenbyu
This post made me so very happy!! Awww.. that's definitely family! Glad you found them and are part of your lives! She just looks so friendly and warm.

Date: 2016-07-04 04:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
I wish I'd taken more pics of Colleen and Mara, but that's me and photos 99.99998% of the time.

Date: 2016-07-04 10:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] koyaaniisqatsi.livejournal.com
This is such a lovely entry. I'm glad you had a good Father's Day weekend, you deserve it. <3

Date: 2016-07-05 02:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
Awww, thank you Dani love <3

Date: 2016-07-04 11:29 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scarlet-begonia.livejournal.com
Looks like a good time and always good to have people like that in your life.

Date: 2016-07-04 01:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gansje.livejournal.com
What a wonderful trip to see your real family! I'm so glad you have them! How did B like them all?

Date: 2016-07-04 05:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
Brenda's met everybody quite some time ago. I think she first met everybody everybody (including ReeRee's extended family) when we were invited to Crystal's college grad party.

Crystal's their older cousin. I don't think I've posted any pics of her here. She was tied up with her new baby a lot.

Crystal's a really intelligent and pretty girl who slightly disappoints me now and then. Only slightly. When she does things like try out for the Vikings cheerleaders (barely missing the cut) a couple times over. Which leaves me thinking but you're so SMART why equate yourself with these dopey jiggle-bots....!?!?!?!?

Crystal managed to weird B out for a while that day. I never realized they were 'bout two years apart, age-wise.
Edited Date: 2016-07-04 05:04 pm (UTC)

Date: 2016-07-04 03:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] zeecha.livejournal.com
What a nice post. Having ReeRee & her fam in your life & reading about it is a *good* thing! Really nice to read about your friendship. I'm happy for you, that you've found that unconditional loving friendship--it's a wonderful thing!

I really like that pic of ReeRee serving--it's a great shot!

Thanks for sharing.

Date: 2016-07-04 04:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
Having her girls run up to me like my Babies used to was the best thing I could have had on a Fathers Day weekend.

Date: 2016-07-04 06:45 pm (UTC)

Date: 2016-07-04 06:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] separated.livejournal.com
i love this post so much.

Date: 2016-07-04 10:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newlifeinstpaul.livejournal.com
Well, for what little time we spent with you...you're real family to me, too.

Date: 2016-07-06 09:36 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] minkrose
oof that last line. so glad you've got good folks to be with. <3

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