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newlifeinstpaulB's mother sent her an email.
I think it was supposed to break her heart and make her feel ashamed of herself and quote-unquote settle this. Especially before the holidays. When people would ask about B and it would embarrass her folks to have to admit they don't know how she's doing.
CLEARLY they have no idea who they're talking to.
And her mum would make a great Trump backer. B let me read it. Her skills at composition woulda got her held back in the 10th grade in a school system as broken as Detroit. Seriously. They wouldn't have given her a diploma. Not even in the 'Hood.
Even Brenda's starting to say Years May Pass before they speak again. And this was the mum she used to talk to every week for hours at a time.
It isn't even about Trump any more. That would have been easier. At worst, they simply wouldn't have seen ME.
But then they had to get Really Stupid. Even I had no idea 'bout That Much Dumb. It's like seeing what you thought was an oil drip on the ground...? That becomes a Boomtime Texas Gusher.
More later, I guess.
I think it was supposed to break her heart and make her feel ashamed of herself and quote-unquote settle this. Especially before the holidays. When people would ask about B and it would embarrass her folks to have to admit they don't know how she's doing.
CLEARLY they have no idea who they're talking to.
And her mum would make a great Trump backer. B let me read it. Her skills at composition woulda got her held back in the 10th grade in a school system as broken as Detroit. Seriously. They wouldn't have given her a diploma. Not even in the 'Hood.
Even Brenda's starting to say Years May Pass before they speak again. And this was the mum she used to talk to every week for hours at a time.
It isn't even about Trump any more. That would have been easier. At worst, they simply wouldn't have seen ME.
But then they had to get Really Stupid. Even I had no idea 'bout That Much Dumb. It's like seeing what you thought was an oil drip on the ground...? That becomes a Boomtime Texas Gusher.
More later, I guess.
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Date: 2016-10-13 12:30 pm (UTC)I feel for B.
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Date: 2016-10-13 08:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 08:10 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2016-10-13 01:52 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 02:29 pm (UTC)One of my parents was physically abusive to all of us kids, but liked me least. At one point as a 12 (13?) year old, The Abuser said something to me that changed my perspective of everything that went on in the house. And that was that. They weren't my family and I was only there until I could manage to GTFO.
I feel bad for B, I know it sucks but I can't put myself in her shoes because I've never had her loss.
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Date: 2016-10-13 02:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 02:19 pm (UTC)I'd accurately sized them up between other stupid comments they'd made in the past and the Trump thing--which was why I'd said I was done with them. But they're SO much thicker-headed than I'd ever guessed.
If their daughter says 'My husband's not coming to see you any more, but I am' and they answer' What makes YOU think you can dictate visiting arrangements' what does that say about every visit in the past? No wonder they looked all pissy this spring. When your kids are adults, guess the (bleep) what? As parents, you are ALL done 'dictating' anything to anybody. Doesn't matter if they're 18 and still living in the house. In Minnesota, 16 and still living in the house. Cuz at any moment, any day they can say 'Eff this, Eff YOU I'm gonna go live with a 46 year old grizzled serial killer in backwoods Appalachia' and the only thing a parent can say is 'Duuhhhhh have a nice trip?'
They imagine she's some kinda of feeble-minded underling! The FUCK. She's GROWN. She's EDUCATED. She's outta college debt. She makes her own money. I'd kill to have LP doing what B was doing at her age--even if it meant she ran off with some 40 year-old man the minute she finished college. Cuz um yeah I s'pose that is what B did too. But I'm SAYIN.
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Date: 2016-10-13 10:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 04:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 05:45 pm (UTC)I HAVE adult kids and I know better than talking to them like she talks to B.
LaserDad's an old-school, belt-whuppin' Bible-shaker and even HE knows not to bring that shit around.
OH and they even came at her with this 'gave you life and took care of you when you were sick (with cancer)' thing. I was all Chris Rock--and I quote--Whaddaya want a COOKIE? That's what you're SPOSED to do, ya low-expectation-having MUTHA you get the idea.
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Date: 2016-10-13 07:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 08:00 pm (UTC)Complain about that infamous shit-launched diaper or that time you shamed the whole family tree at the mall. But do better, no?
B should print a copy, mark it up with red pen and Post-Its and mail it back.
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Date: 2016-10-13 10:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 05:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-10-13 08:41 pm (UTC)*hugs* to both of you.
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Date: 2016-10-13 11:55 pm (UTC)Been there and it isn't fun.
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Date: 2016-10-14 02:25 am (UTC)